Thursday, 23 October 2014

Remembering the year of horse - 2014. My Ups and Downs.

2014 is a strange year. At least for me,  it's the year of the horse. This means I'm now 36 years now. 3 x 12 years has passed since I am born. This year begins with joyous mood as I had ended 2013 by proposing to my long time girlfriend. From that till the middle of the year, we were just busy preparing for our wedding. We had plans and more plans were made in anticipation of our big day.

At the start of July, we were still discussing on bringing my parents to the tailors to make suits for our big day. You know the thing about planning is, it never goes the way you wanted it to be. There is always that something that will be unforeseen. On 5th of July, I was in JB with my Louise to shop for clothes. I remember I told Louise that I don't feel very well on that partial cloudy day with a little bit of rain fall. My heart and mind is giving me trouble. Something just something was bugging me. I couldn't shake off that ominous feeling the entire day. When I reached home that night, I notice my dad was rather late. He was not home even at 10pm, usually he would be home by 9pm having his dinner. There were times when he came back around 11pm, because he was slow in his work, but that night. I had a very bad feeling. By 11pm, I went out circling around the area looking for him. There was no sight of him, then the phone came. My sister inform me of the bad news and to come back home as police officers were there.

Those few days went in a rush, it was truly one of the saddest day in my life. Thankfully I had very good friends to came to give me support and my best buddy who came back to Singapore in a short notice just to talk to me. That event make me understand a lot of things. I'm lucky I have a bunch of people who I know for many years. Louise has always been there for me.

One - No matter what plans you make, things never go your way.
Two - Life is short, you never know when you go. Even if you have dreams, ambition, wishes. All can be gone in just one second.
Three - One mistake is all that cost your life.
Fourth - In life you need very good friends to tide you through bad times.
Fifth - In life, in death, in after death. Everything cost you money.

Those days pass along quickly. From the initial sadness, quickly came the times to settle my dad assets. Getting money from banks is not that straight-forward if you are not prepared for it. I will write another post on this for the benefits of others who encounter this.

Fast forward to month of October, my big day finally came. Louise and I were looking forward to this date. We had plan and executed it, it went on without any major hiccups. I was really happy to see again all my good friends. I remember Nix telling me about how good a wife Louise is going to be. I also remember Vincent telling me to appreciate Louise and how scary marriage is going to be. Vincent as usual weight in his 2cents advise, which I often term them as grumbling. But I do appreciate his concern and advise since he always warn us about the potential pitfall before we actually drop into it. Liam chip in as well. I was really half-hearted when told I had to perform a 15min gig to impress the judges of jie meis  and Louise herself. My reasoning was that it was so last min and I had other things on my mind to do a good job. But Liam had nothing of it, he told me to do a performance, it must be the best. He force me to practise my lousy singing with his perfect guitar skill. It was like trying to sing in front of my music teacher who love correcting my tone deaf voice. Fortunately, everyone chip in on the actual day and Louise is pretty impressed. To say it was my happiest day, is no exaggerations. These day, staying together with Louise let me appreciate her more. Even just simply staying at home gives me the peace and rest that I sorely needed. 

Year 2014 has not ended yet but already it's proving a year for me to remember. One of the saddest day and one of the happiest day happens together. In life we can't always hope we be happy, but when we are sad, you will know there are someone who always be there for you. So please don't forget them when you are happy. A simple greeting, a simple chat, a simple link up to your loved ones. Do it now or you will truly regret it when it is too late.






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